Love is defined by the dictionary as “an intense feeling of deep affection”. In today’s world the word love is one of the most misused and misunderstood words in our vocabulary. The social psychologist John A. Lee describes love using 6 different theories. Some of these theories include Eros- meaning physical attraction, Ludus- meaning love in the form of a game and Mania- an obsessive love. Egotistic ideology and selfish intentions is a common thread between these theories of love. Our society teaches us that we should love others who make us feel good about ourselves or bring us pleasure. Although this may be true, is that the actual meaning of love. If that were the case, does that mean we fall out of love with a person who doesn’t make us feel special one day? Or does that mean we shouldn’t have compassion and empathy towards those who don’t treat us kindly?
But Christ refers to love beyond those theories and definitions as demonstrated in Matthew 5:46 If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Are not even the tax collectors doing that? Christ here blatantly states that only showing love to those who love us is not true love.
John A. Lee along with other psychologist and theologians describe this love as greater and more perfect than any other; Agape. Agape is described as a selfless, altruistic and sacrificial love. Christ, the all mighty God came down from Heaven took our form and lived amongst us. He was born in a manger, was tortured and died for our sake. This is true love, and is the love that God wants us to share with Him and with each other. This type of love creates a bond that is unbreakable as shown in Colossians 3:14 And over all these virtues put on love, which is the bond of perfect unity.
As we are starting the Advent fast we need to remember the importance and un-paralleled example of Christ’s love. Love is NOT just an intense feeling that can change, but an undistinguishable power that can heal all wounds and strengthen all bounds
But we should always remember
Love never fails
( Corinthians 13:8)